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Several weeks ago (August 11th to be exact), I wrote about an AMAZING WOMAN who was battling cancer.

If you saw that original post, entitled I Believe She’s AMAZING, you will know that her daughter, Collette, is one of the Chicks – and that Eva came over for a few hours of Chick Time on the day I wrote that blog.

That visit with Bonnie, Collette, and I was the last time she ever left her house.

In Eva Lanctot’s own words, she “fought the good fight.”  Sadly, she lost that fight on the morning of Monday, August 22nd.

I use the word “sadly” to describe how the rest of us feel about no longer having this dynamic and vibrant personality walking among us. She, on the other hand, was not sad.

Don’t get me wrong – she would have preferred to have more time! However, Eva was grateful to have been given several months in which to reflect on her life and spiritual convictions, wrap up all her business and personal affairs,  and most importantly, to let those around her know how she felt about them.

I tell you this to help you understand how vitally important it is to let people know what you like/love/admire/respect about them – while you still can.

I was fortunate enough to have been able to say those things to Eva before it was too late. I had learned that lesson the hard way a few months before…

It was mid-February, and I was in Toronto visiting my Mom. She received a call from a neighbourhood church letting her know that one of its members had passed away.

Shockingly, I recognized the name. Not only did I recognize the name, but I realized I had gone to school with this woman. She was my age, and now she had been taken by cancer. She left behind her husband, Albert (her high school sweetheart) and their three daughters, Valerie, Nicole, and Michelle.

I hadn’t seen or talked to Patricia Anne Conforzi for decades – so why, besides feeling badly for her husband and children, was I so upset?

Yes, I will admit it was unnerving to come face-to-face with the reality of my own mortality, but that wasn’t the only reason I couldn’t seem to get her out of my mind.

Over the next few weeks, I found myself thinking back to the teenager I had known as Patty Malo.

I remembered her as a cheerful, friendly young woman. We had been in several classes together during our high school years and I could clearly recall her warm smile – and the way she always had a kind word for anyone she spoke to.

That was it! That’s what had been trying to surface to the forefront of my brain.

In all the years I’d known her, I had never once heard her say a mean word to, or about, anyone. Not once.

The more I thought about her, the more I realized I had always liked and respected her for that – but I had NEVER TOLD HER.

So, in HONOUR of Patty Malo (Patricia Anne Conforzi), I made a list of all the people I love and respect who are still here.

I picked up a big stack of cards – the kind with a pretty picture on the front and lots of blank writing space on the inside – and began to write to everyone on my list.

Each card starts with the words, “The world is a better place because you are here.” I tell the person what I admire most about him or her and all the things I love about that person.

As of today, I’m about halfway through that stack of cards and two-thirds of the way through my list of names.

Is there someone YOU want to reach out to? Are there things you want to SAY?

Feel free to use my idea or come up with your own version.  If writing isn’t your thing, just pick up the phone or drop by for coffee.

Whether this person is an AMAZING WOMAN or an AMAZING MAN – it is the words left unsaid that you may live to regret.

Talk soon.




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Thinking of YOU

In the past hour, I have created the rough draft of five different blog post ideas. Each of them has merit and will eventually find their way onto this site, but NOT TODAY.

No matter how much I try to massage the words into sentences and the sentences into paragraphs – I just can’t seem to get any of these ideas to flow together to create a complete blog post.

Now, here I sit staring at YET ANOTHER Word document that mocks me with its vast amount of white space.

I realize that the OBVIOUS SOLUTION is to simply walk away from my laptop and not write anything on my blog today. I tried that, but I keep coming back to this keyboard because the simple truth is – I want to reach out.

I WANT TO CONNECT WITH YOU. The fact that I have no idea what I want to say today doesn’t change that.

It’s been several days since I posted anything and the longer I wait, the more I feel like I’m ignoring you.

Am I making ANY SENSE at all?

Maybe I’m just being hard on myself. After all, how many times have you called someone when you really had nothing new to say? You had no fabulous news or interesting personal anecdotes to share – you just wanted to say “Hi, I am thinking of you”.

By posting this to my blog, I am sending you an electronic version of a Hallmark “Thinking of You” card.

There it is. That’s my message for today. I AM THINKING OF YOU.

Hope all is well and wonderful at your end.

Talk soon.


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I Believe She’s AMAZING

This year’s CHICK WEEK has been a lesson in flexibility, gratitude, and TRUE COURAGE.

In the original plan, Bonnie, Collette and I would spend this week (from August 8th to 12th) at Collette’s camp. Five days of sun, fun and female bonding time in a scenic and remote location – completely removed from television, radio and the internet.

Then, came the call. Collette’s Mom’s cancer had reared its ugly head again. All thoughts of our “much-needed” week of R&R suddenly seemed trivial and unimportant. The only thing that mattered to us was to provide comfort and emotional support for our beloved friend, Collette and her beloved mother, Eva.

Amazingly, it is EVA who has COMFORTED US.

Eva is no quitter, nor is she the type of woman who looks away from the truth. She has always been a formidable woman – a well respected business woman and community advocate, and a force of nature. Her instinct is to face personal and professional challenges head-on.

This combination of courage and acceptance is allowing her to recognize all that she has achieved in her lifetime, connect with all those who matter to her, and focus all her energy and attention on gratitude for the blessings of her life. She is calm, centered, and inspiring.

With all that has been going on, we Chicks decided to do a shortened version of Chick Week in the form of a two day STAYCATION. Our HONOURARY CHICK blessed us with a visit Tuesday evening during Chick Night. Within moments of her arrival, Eva had us all laughing our heads off with funny stories of how she and her husband met. Even now, she is poster girl for courage.

Afterward, while sitting together in Collette’s livingroom, we came across a remarkable video on YouTube that we would like to share with you. Visit http://www.ibelieveshesamazing.com and join with women around the world who are helping to create the LARGEST LIVING LEGACY OF FRIENDSHIP.

Who is the AMAZING WOMAN in your life? Who inspires you with her heart, strength, and courage?

Whoever she is – call her, write to her, email her, whatever. Just TELL HER.



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